I Don't Get It

So, I'm all caught up in this trial going on in Utah where a Mormon doctor and lawyer is accused of murdering his wife of 30 years.

Apparently, he had told her a bunch of times before she died that he wanted out of the marriage.

He'd been cheating on her and eventually met someone who it looks like he was willing to kill to be with.

The adult daughters of the couple have been testifying against their father.

One of them told how her mother, who'd just had a face lift at her husband's urging, was concerned that her husband was over-medicating her. She told her daughter that she should be the one in charge of her medication, not her husband.

Next thing you know, she's dead in the bathtub. 

Here's what I don't get.

She knew her husband had ill intentions toward her. Her daughter knew too. And neither of them thought to get her out of the situation?

I don't get it. They discussed it. If you're having a conversation with someone that includes, "I think your father is being shady with my medication", is it not a tip that maybe something should be done?

And what makes a person stay in a marriage where she isn't loved and certainly isn't respected? She's dead now. Had she gotten out of the marriage, she'd be alive. Why couldn't she do the right thing for herself? 

Was dying married a better option to her than being alive and alone?

Half of all marriages end in divorce and I'm convinced at least 75 percent of the other half want to get divorced but are too afraid of being alone or the debt it would create to do it. So they suffer in unhappy marriages and live like the walking dead. You have to feel dead if you're in a loveless marriage.

Marriage is an obsolete institution. It was at one time considered a way to bring stability to neighborhoods. But it isn't. It just clogs up the divorce and homicide courts with toxic drama.

Stay together because you want to. Not because you signed a paper.